A few weeks ago, I was looking forward to having brunch with a special person, but early morning the day of the brunch, I got a text informing me that they needed to postpone. They wanted to postpone it to the following Saturday, but I was heading out of town that Thursday and wouldn't be around. To be quite honest, I was a little disappointed because I hadn't seen this person in over a year. Up until now, this person hasn't had the capacity to be in community, so I had to wait on them to reach out to me. I only told a couple of my closest people about the brunch because something told me that it might not happen. You really have to be mindful about what you are expecting because the law of expectation says you will eventually get what you expect.
I also attribute it to reaping what we sow. According to the bible in Galatians 6:9 it says let us not become weary in doing good for at the proper time we will reap what we sow. If we continue to sow on a low vibrational level, then we will reap on that same level. I try my best to navigate this life with an optimistic attitude versus a pessimistic one. I try to keep my mind focused on everything that is going well in my life. Just in case you don't know the difference, according to google a pessimist is a person who tends to see the worst in any situation, expecting the worst possible outcome and believing that bad things will happen. An optimistic person is someone who tends to see the best in any situation, expecting the best possible outcome and believing that good things will happen.
What does it mean to be disappointed? Disappointment means sadness or by the nonfulfillment of one's hopes or expectations. All of us will be upset about something or someone over time in our lifetime and we have to learn how to navigate these situations. The bible tells us in Hebrews 10:35 says do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. When disappointment strikes, hold tightly to your faith, say I am confident, and I still believe. At the end of the day make sure you can count on yourself to show up for you. I have learned to not put much stock in what others say until they back it up with their actions, that is why I said I was a little disappointed. I ended up continuing on with my brunch and spent time with myself. I was even able to bless my server with a copy of my book Identity Cry-Sis. I am determined to share my story with the world.
I want to leave you with five ways to deal with disappointment:
1. Treat yourself with kindness. Your disappointments need to be addressed, but you must first take care of yourself physically and mentally.
2. Keep a good circle of friends around you.
3. Let your feel-good juices flow.
4. Take this as a learning experience.
5. Keep Living!
Remember when things fall through make sure you have a backup plan so the blow from said mishap doesn't force you into a downward spiral. Things happen and sometimes it’s the excitement of things that causes people to agree and then when they realize they are not ready, they have to pull back and reassess. Realize that it has nothing to do with you and they are just sorting out some things in their lives. Self-preservation is the highest form of self-care, so take care of you!
Sending you love, light and positive vibes,
Cassie K.
"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally!"
So wise -K
Love this Cassie